Five Things I’m Most Proud Of

Crying In My Mom’s Lap

There are so many things I neglected to appreciate as a daughter in my earlier years: the biggest one was my mom’s ability to understand situations I endured in life and how I would undoubtedly react to them.  It’s silly to think that the woman who raised me and molded me into the person I am today would be the last person I looked to for friendship. I’m abased to admit the first time I openly let my mom see me cry was in my mid-twenties.  And while the story behind it is not important, here’s something that is: you are never too old to need your mom.  There is something so special that happens when God creates the relationship between a mother and her children; they truly are the remedy for every broken heart.  So whether I’m 6, 26, or 46 I am so blessed to know I can always cry in my mom’s lap – just as she has often made the commute to where her mother is, and done the same.

Creating A Financial Budget – And Sticking To It

This was a crazy year for Tommy and I.  We traveled quite a bit and because of this we had to remodel our financial habits. I wouldn’t say we were careless with our money.  As a matter of fact, we thought we were doing pretty well: neither of us had any debt, we both put about 30% of our paychecks into savings, and we had more than enough expendable income to do the things we wanted to do on a daily basis.  The main flaw we saw in our spending was that we weren’t keeping track of any of it.  Once we started to, we realized which areas of our spending needed restructure.  Rather than creating a monthly budget, we created a bi-monthly budget for every pay period (since we both get paid twice a month).  In doing this we were able to see that, very often, our expenses for the period were greater than our income for the period.  For example, if I got paid $100 on the 15th (obviously a made up wage), I was often spending $120 before I got paid again on the 31st.  Though these overages were often small, they gave us perspective on where we could reduce our spending and add to our savings.  Most of our overspending came in a not-so-surprising category: food.  We were overspending not only on eating out, but also on groceries!  Did we really need to be buying expensive seafood so we could eat surf and turf three times a week and falter to every ridiculous deal Sam’s club had on Tombstone pizza? Probably not.  This encouraged us to develop meal planning strategies and in turn made us better grocery shoppers (if anyone wants free Tombstone pizza – please inbox me).We also realized we were keeping more expendable income in our checking accounts than we needed to – so we started putting  those additional funds into our savings accounts.  Getting on a good financial track is so important, and developing disciplined habits early on is crucial – especially if you’re in it with someone else.  My best advice: learn how to use Excel.  Spreadsheets change your life!

Taking My Parents To Disney World

I’ve always wanted to take my parents on vacation but I never thought it was good timing.  This year with getting engaged, planning for our 2017 wedding, and paying for tuition out-of-pocket I thought it to be impossible.  But then I realized that if I always made up excuses like this in my head that “someday” would turn into “never” and before I knew it I’d wake up and be  27 and regret all the times I said I’d do it but didn’t.  So I broke the mold and booked a trip for my parents and little brother to go to Disney World.  It is honestly one of the things I am most proud of because my parents have made the ultimate sacrifices for me and my siblings and they truly deserve the world on a silver platter. I’m sure you’ve all got Disney World engraved in your minds as a magical place for kids, but judging by all my dad’s pictures with Buzz Lightyear and his take home of multiple plush toys, I’d say Disney World brings out the kid in all of us.  They have Dinosaurs that actually walk around the park okay!  If you don’t get excited by the sight of that, you have no soul! So whether it’s calling my mom to just say ‘hello’, stopping by and dropping off groceries, or taking them out to dinner from time to time – it is my ultimate joy to contribute to my parents happiness and cherishing every moment I have with them.

Taking A Month Of Unpaid Leave 

So many people think if they don’t have paid vacation days that they shouldn’t take time off.  If you plan ahead and have cogent spending habits – or let’s say, a good financial budget (see #2 above) – this should absolutely be doable! This past December Tommy and I took a month off to travel to China, Taiwan, and Thailand.  I remember being extremely nervous knowing I was going to take a month of work off unpaid.  I prepared close to a year in advance to make sure everything would be taken care of in our absence: our utilities, our rent, and other miscellaneous bills.  In that month I saw the country my parents were once refugees in, I met my aunt who hasn’t seen my family in over 35 years, I ate alien food, I bathed in mountains, I fell in love with strangers, and I became someone’s fiance!  It was the best month of my life.  And by all means, this isn’t intended for you to think you should take unpaid time off just to go on vacation or to encourage careless work ethic. Sometimes we need a day to visit family.  Or a day to rest.  Sometimes we just need to choose ourselves first.

No Longer Measuring My Success

One of the hardest feats I’ve had to overcome in my coming of an adult is accepting that life is not a race and my timeline is not determined by someone else’s.  I’ve found ‘success’ to be such an asinine term.  It’s a weird habit to measure your success in life only by the numbers side of the equation. Who cares if you bring in $100K a year if it only buys you a crappy apartment that you hate in a city that stresses you out with friends that don’t inspire you and a daily existence you mostly daydream about escaping from?   Who cares if you have 12,532 followers on Instagram and get 430 likes on staged photos with imitated aesthetics and overexposed  lighting?  We’re all guilty of seeking validation in superficial environments and we’re all familiar with the feeling of how second-rate those ventures often make us feel.  It’s okay to be two steps behind.  It’s okay to make less money than your peers. It’s okay to be second best and it’s also okay to be just as good as someone else.  Only you can truly know what kind of life you want, but opening your mind to measures of progress beyond salary and social acceptance will give you a much better chance of crafting a life you love.

17 comments on “Five Things I’m Most Proud Of

    1. I couldn’t agree more. Life is one long pursuit of happiness and it’s a learning experience every step of the way. Thanks for taking the time to read <3

      XO, Amy

  1. I love this. I’m all for appreciating the simple things in life & making yourself a priority because we often forget to do that.

  2. I’m actually during my unpaid leave and I’m glad someone else thinks that it’s a good idea too! I went bold and took 2 and a half months, but I deserve it. We all do. I really enjoyed reading your post! xx

    1. Andreea – GOOD FOR YOU! I am so happy for you and yes, you absolutely deserve it. Your mind, body, & soul deserve it. Hope you have the time of your life and experience amazing things <3!


  3. This is an amazing post! You are so right, it’s awful to just spend your days sad and depressed, but trying to convince yourself that it’s all worth it for the money. It’s not, and you only have one life, so you need to make the best of it.
    I also dream about taking my parents in a vacation someday, to see them happy, enjoying life without any worries or concerns. Your post almost made me cry, so thank you for sharing this.

  4. I really enjoyed this post. It was very heartfelt and I could defiantly relate to the first point made “Crying In My Mom’s Lap” as I had the same reflection. I even got a little emotional because sometimes we take our parents for granted until we are at a more mature mind set. This post is such an inspiration. Cant wait to see more!

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